The truth is, it's impossible to just FIND your own style, you create your own style over a fairly long period of time. The more things you expose yourself to and get inspired by, the more unique and interesting your style is going to be. There's a quote I quite like that goes something like:
"Creativity is knowing how to hide your influences"
and I couldn't agree more with that sentiment. A lot of people think I make unique music, but I can almost always point out where I got the inspiration from songs.. Whether it be influenced by another artist, a genre, etc., and that's the beauty of it.
I try to listen to as much different music as possible, and on a daily basis that ranges from indie, to metal, to electronic, to jazz.. and when I sit down now I never feel like I'm making something that's already been made.
Hope this helps!
definitely helps thanks man, makes a lot of sense