No, that just means you should practice better EQ.
I always EQ my kick and snare in a 4x4 pattern (kick snare kick snare and kick kickandsnare kick kickandsnare)
the kick and snare part should sit well together, so that if you do have a pattern where the kick and snare is on at the same time, the combination should sit well together.
Yea, to some extent you could use a side chain, but after experimenting i found that result wasn't going to be the way to move forward.
Sculpting with EQ, given a particular reference point, helps shape the sound at a particular moment in the song.