Haven't had this problem very often but every now and then when I'm mixing a track with a very low 808 style sub it will sound well mixed on my headphones, monitors, and laptop speakers. However, when I go play it out over a large PA the bass will be far too loud and drown out everything else. I need some new tips and tricks on getting the sub levels in a strong, but not overpowering, range before I embarrass myself by playing a blown out mix during a set lol.

On my masters I aim to have my sub hit roughly between -12 and -9 fwiw

Comparing to other tracks is the key you are looking for. Use a low pass filter on commercial songs and copare them with your song with a low pass filter.

And compare with a frequency analyzer, but what you hear is more important.

For everyone saying you get your sub at -4 or -6 and such what is that relative too? If your sub is at -6 what is your kick at? And is that peak meter?

For everyone saying you get your sub at -4 or -6 and such what is that relative too? If your sub is at -6 what is your kick at? And is that peak meter?

kick's at -10ish or so...

actually, i think my sub comes just a little below that, but by the way i have my gain set to my volume, it comes in at -4.

i just checked one of my newer songs, and my sub goes a tiny bit above -10db, and my kicks and barely peaking at -10db

these are the gain levels after adjusting the volume fader accordingly