Okay, here's how I broke the modes down for myself.
1. The 7 modes are split up into the Major and Minor sounding modes.
2. Major: Ionian, Lydian, Mixolydian. Minor: Dorian, Phrygian, Aeolian, Locrian.
3. MAJOR sounding modes:
i) Ionian = The Major Scale.
ii) Lydian = The Major Scale but raise the 4th note in the scale up 1 semitone. *
iii) Mixolydian = The Major Scale but lower the 7th note in the scale down 1 semitone.
4. MINOR sounding modes:
i) Aeolian = The Natural Minor Scale
ii) Dorian = The Natural Minor Scale but raise the 6th note in the scale up 1 semitone.
iii) Phrygian = The Natural Minor Scale but lower the 2nd note in the scale down 1 semitone.
iv) Locrian = The Natural Minor Scale but lower the 2nd note AND 5th note in the scale down 1 semitone.
Essentially, there are really only 3 major things you need to know to fully understand the modes:
1. How to construct/play a Major Scale.
2. How to construct/play a Minor Scale.
3. The characteristics of each mode, there are only 7 of them, it's not that hard I don't think?
And when you break them up into the Major/Minor ones, it gets a lot easier.
*Best example of the Lydian mode ever: The Simpsons theme. The third note in that melody is the raised 4th scale note.