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Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« on: March 02, 2016, 11:44:43 pm »
I find it really hard to let people listen to my music. I put a lot of time, devotion and love into it. And to deal with comments on "my baby's" is difficult for me at times. Although I can separate personal opinions from proper feedback.   
Of course I know I can still learn a lot. And I'm working on that every single day. But at some point you should let people hear what you make, right? I easily think my tracks are not finished yet, ending up not letting anybody hear them. Or when I finally do I get not so nice comments (or no comments at all) which makes me insecure again. 

Any tips how to better deal with this?


 
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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #1 on: March 02, 2016, 11:49:23 pm »
HELLO! WELCOME TO THE INTERNET!

If you're going to get butthurt just from the comments then don't post your songs... Don't even bother trying to the music industry because it will only get worse. 
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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2016, 11:59:09 pm »
Any tips how to better deal with this?

Just do it!
What´s the worst thing that can happen? People don´t like it?  Well, that doesn´t affect the number of fans that your music has, as the current number is zero.
Come to terms with the fact that early works will be embarrassing to look back on, but that they´re a part of the journey.  If you get better, then your earlier finished tracks will seem more basic, because you have evolved.
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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2016, 12:14:56 am »
I find it really hard to let people listen to my music. I put a lot of time, devotion and love into it.
How many finished tracks have you made so far?

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2016, 12:24:59 am »
Read them carefully and take them into consideration. That's all.

If someone took the time to leave a comment on your track, they either want to see you improve, or think you're doing fine already.

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2016, 07:22:25 am »
Not an easy one.

You have to filter out the messages in the feedback which will be helpful to you.

Feedback is a personal opinion and sometimes it doesn't fit your idea about your music, so you don't have to do anything with that.


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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2016, 12:14:59 pm »
I find it really hard to let people listen to my music. I put a lot of time, devotion and love into it.
How many finished tracks have you made so far?

Somewhere around 90 tracks so far (in the last 4 years). But most of them I never shared, except with my wife and some really close friends. Maybe I'm giving myself an answer here already. This is my first time on a forum like this and I just noticed I can also post tracks (and even WIP's) for feedback here.   

I think my question wasn't totally clear. But thank you all for your your feedback, much appreciated. I know the difference between opinions and proper technical feedback etc. But in what degree do you care about opinions in this case? Do you care about if people like what you make, or should that just be a bonus? I was more looking for your thoughts on that, I guess.   

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2016, 12:36:44 pm »
I think my question wasn't totally clear. I know the difference between opinions and proper technical feedback etc. But in what degree do you care about opinions in this case? Do you care about if people like what you make, or should that just be a bonus? I was more looking for your thoughts on that, I guess.

Sometimes I care, and sometimes I don't, really!

If you're afraid of failure, you should stop. I mean, if someone says your music sucks, do you roll over and die? No, right?

My advice is, take the good and constructive criticism and ignore the guys that say "You and your music suck" without backing it up with at least a sentence or two explaining why it sucks and how to make it better.

Oh yeah, and about hitting 90 tracks, congrats!

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2016, 02:06:00 pm »
Read them carefully and take them into consideration. That's all.

If someone took the time to leave a comment on your track, they either want to see you improve, or think you're doing fine already.

I'd say this.

You're going to get your balls or ovaries busted either way and at some point you should almost seek that to get better.

My problem with the internet is the inherit disassociation of human feelings, and the lack of body language often makes the text messages easy to misinterpret.

You might have to find meaning in the words they chose, more so than the words chosen for face value. But you should be able to discern what is good comments and what is not worth you time getting stressed about. 
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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2016, 10:45:38 pm »
i know its hard but if you are a musician or a person displaying your works to an audience, you have to take comments, good and bad

keep working on your craft, cause theres just so much to learn, you see how little you know when you hear a great track or album made

theres going to be people who love your stuff and people who hate your stuff

also if you play gigs, etc you get comments before you play, after you play and during you play,

I've had people who made fun of my equipment, and said that electronic music wasn't relevant, etc all that BS and then these people end up kissing my ass in the end

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2016, 06:37:37 pm »
I find it really hard to let people listen to my music. I put a lot of time, devotion and love into it. And to deal with comments on "my baby's" is difficult for me at times. Although I can separate personal opinions from proper feedback.   
Of course I know I can still learn a lot. And I'm working on that every single day. But at some point you should let people hear what you make, right? I easily think my tracks are not finished yet, ending up not letting anybody hear them. Or when I finally do I get not so nice comments (or no comments at all) which makes me insecure again. 

Any tips how to better deal with this?

I deal with same issue honestly except it has more to do with me being much to critical of my own work. If I feel something is bad then I automatically think everyone thinks the same which is a bad habit because it's not necessarily always true.

Honestly, I would REALLY like to hear your music. If you've made 90 tracks then I'm sure there has to be at least one of them that I like. I think most people are pretty nice when it comes to feedback. I haven't ever had anyone tell me "This song sounds like absolute garbage" aside from myself. Sometimes people are blatantly honest like Marrow when it comes to issues in your music but it's only for the sake of making it better. (Which he's definitely helping me out on)
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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #11 on: March 08, 2016, 11:46:04 am »
Gather a close circle of trusted friends and let them listen to your works, in person if possible. Honestly, these are pretty much the only opinions I truly value.

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Re: Any tips on how to deal with comments on your music?
« Reply #12 on: March 09, 2016, 05:35:28 pm »
OPTIONS:
  • Don't read them or block them, which is not exactly the proud way to handle this but you won't see them.
  • Deal with it, if they truly are your babies, you should care what others think about your children, a parent doesn't need that bullshit negative influence on their children.
  • Listen with perspective, my personal favorite. Hear what they say, but only truly listen to those you consider are trying to help you, whether it be positive reinforcement or constructive criticism. Everything with a grain a salt and a heap of logic.