They are great i just wish i could use them properly lol 
For the longest time i was using a pair of in-ear skull candies but they seemed to have to much bass so i would naturally make my bass softer. on my monitors its the opposite causing me to make the bass louder. i cant seem to find a happy medium so iv just kind of been guessing. any recommendations?
Those earphones actually have bass boosters which is why it is too loud and heavy. hmmmm if you would have the money i suggest buying decent headphones that have flat responses so that you can hear the basses at the right volume and the sound will be true. if not I think try referencing tracks that have similar basslines and look at their bass frequencies to help you along. Lastly I would suggest using the meters as guide to its volume but also use your ears.
it looks like ill need to invest in some better head phones. last night i tried using meters to balance out my bass and i was still having issues

im probably just tone def from having a obnoxious sub woofer in my car for the last 4 years lol